Have I introduced you to my kid? No, I don’t think so. So, Meet Mammoo. A terrific 4+ years old, can’t sit still even for a minute. He loves to be surrounded with people and teacher’s pet. Always!
Ever since Mammoo came into our lives, I started equipping myself on parenting. I soaked up whatever information I could lay my hands on. A lot of books, real life advice from people, of course parenting sites, blogs, etc. But, Parenting cannot be learnt from the books. It is an art where you practice and perfect ( err… I don’t even believe in something called as perfect parenting.)
There are few instances where I learn from this boy on parenting.
One day, Mammoo & I were sitting at a dentist’s office reception and it is a long wait. Next to us, is a family with two adorable little girls. Suddenly Mammoo asked me this.
“Mommy, why is this child wearing nothing over her innerwear?” I was shocked. I did not even know that he has started noticing how others dress. Luckily I managed this.
“Mammoo, we don’t comment on how others dress.” This boy was not satisfied.
“No, mommy. We should wear a dress over , right?”.
Again, I told him. “No baby. Everyone can dress how they like. We should not comment on it.”
I am not sure, whether he got it or just bored of it. Reluctantly he said, ” Ok mommy.”
I also apologized to the parents. This incident actually makes me realize the importance of raising boys right. This society is a big influence on them.
We will have to let these little children, especially boys know that societal norms are not always right. I can see an increasing number of parents who encourage girl children to pursue whatever they wish. It is a great change. But personally I feel that there should be an equal or more number of parents who teach boys that the world is a common place for all genders. We should take the responsibility of raising a generation of men, who take part in baby care, household chores without feeling that they are a rarity in mankind. We should make them understand that there is nothing in the world called as girls job!
As parents to young boys, we have a tougher challenge in the name of society in front of us. The society will try to pull us down. The friends circle may always make our jobs tougher. The well-meaning relatives may always make a comment when a boy is willing help mom in kitchen. Parenting, when done right, is the only solution to these societal issues. It might take generations to solve these gender stereotypes. But definitely, it starts from home.
Here is to the parents, whose boys will grow up to become men who respect women!
**This is my second post on Blogathon- 2017. You can read my other posts here.
Day 1**
** I am also linking this blog to #MommyTalks by Nabanita Dhar**
very true- it all starts from home. we can do a great deal by raising our kids to respecting other kids, no matter gender, size or whatever. Mine are almost grown ups now, a boy and a girl, but I like to believe that respect and understanding and compassion are values they both have got:-) Enjoyed your write up:-)
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That’s so great! Imbibing values into kids is the best way forward. Cheers to you Eli!
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So hard to get parenting right!
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Of course, it is very hard!
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The question is genuine because from your son’s perspective, he hasn’t seen something like that. You are so right that little children need to be taught to see varied things around them and still be comfortable. A good post.
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Welcome here, Parul. Yes, when I think of it, the question definitely appears genuine. At the moment, I was shocked because as a family we are completely fine with the way ppl dress as they wish.
Thanks for reading!
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SO well written Boomerang! Mammoo will grow up to be a wonderful man in future. I will come back to read more on your parenting techniques when the right time comes. So pls keep writing more on your parenting tips 🙂
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Thanks GB. Parenting is like treading your way into sand mines. Good luck to you, may the right time come soon!😉
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very true.. every day is learning for a parent who wants to be sensible..
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Well said Ani! It is a life long journey.
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Mammoo is my nice name which was called by my parents . Now both are not alive miss to hear that name. Surprised to get this used by someone . Love to your little one
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Love Shwethays!
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Rightly said. The answers to many societal problem lies at home. If parenting is done right, there wouldnt be domestic abuse, violence and prejudices in society. I am glad as a parent you have recognised and creating the right atmosphere for your son.!!
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Welcome here Me Otherwise! It is all small efforts that make a huge difference.
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Can I just hug you?
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Sure, sure!! **Bear hugs**
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So true, we are our kids best role models and what they learn from us lays a foundation for behaviour to follow tomorrow. Loved your style of writing. thanks
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Having a son myself (and a daughter), I totally agree, we really need to nurture the caring, empathetic sides of all of our children no matter what gender. Thanks for sharing!
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Quite a good read for a beginner mom like me! Thank you.. 🙂
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I can totally relate. We don’t realize how much our kids are learning from everyday experiences until we are out in the real world and encounter these situations. You handled it well, every instance can be a lesson.
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Very well said. Totally agree with your thoughts on raising boys.
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